help me convince DH
Hi, I was hoping that you all could help me. I am against circ. Dh is circed and is pretty much on the fence, he is leaning very strongly in my direction.
If I could find some pictures of what it looks like when things go wrong then I think the debate would be over. So I was hoping that you all could give me some links to some nice and disturbing pictures so I can show Dh.
This is not urgent though. We do not have a boy and it will be a few months before that is even a possibility. I just think that it is better to deal with this situation now, while it is more theoretical.
Thanks for your help.
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- Ask him how he would react if your newborn baby was critically ill, and needed all kinds of medical intervention to survive. Ask him how he would feel if your newborn baby had a serious birth defect, and required surgery right away.
Ask him "If we are blessed with a normal, healthy baby, do you REALLY want to hand him over for an operation he doesn't even need?"#1; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:23:00 GMT
- That is pretty much what I said to him to get him were he is at. I asked him if he would let a doctor near his dingdong with a knife if there was nothing wrong with it. He looked at me like I was crazy and was like NO WAY so I asked him why he would let a doctor near his LO with a knife. He agreed with me, So I decided to go all the way with the fear, and I pointed out that sometimes DR make mistakes when they preform a circ, he grabbed himself and flinched. DH as a man is so attached to his own dingdong that the concept that circ does not help and could hurt really got to him. I suspect if I personalize it some more and show him "Look this could happen to your baby" then he would be on my side, DH is pretty easy to convince (he is gullible!), so I need to scare him more then the DR and hospital and in-laws do otherwise they will just flip him back around.#2; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:24:00 GMT
- Hi there. If you click on "scars" in my siggy, you will find some pics of botches. This http://www.infocirc.org/fourn.htm is a freaky one too.
Or this http://www.cmaj.ca/cgi/content/full/169/3/216
Here is a list complete with links to actual cases of complications http://www.cirp.org/library/complications/
This one is cool because it even lists complications that men have even when the circumcision is done "right" http://www.noharmm.org/IDcirc.htm
Good luck with your dh!
Tara#3; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:25:00 GMT
- botched circ list (http://www.mothersagainstcirc.org/botch.htm#list) from mothers against circ...
maybe these will help...
peace...#4; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:26:00 GMT
- Pictures of botched circes
And show him the video that is linked to here on CAC#5; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:27:00 GMT
- There was a circ recently in my state that resulted in the baby losing the entire glans of his penis. No photo, but I'm sure your dh's imagination will conjure up a sufficiently horrific image for him.#6; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:28:00 GMT
- There was a circ recently in my state that resulted in the baby losing the entire glans of his penis. No photo, but I'm sure your dh's imagination will conjure up a sufficiently horrific image for him.
this might be it#7; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:29:00 GMT
- Depending on how open-minded and secure in his manhood dh is, you may or may not want to point out that ALL circumcisions harm babies. Even the most complication-free circ deprives the boy of half of the nerve endings of his penis. Bottom line -- circ makes the penis shorter, thinner, and less sensitive. Even if you could guarantee none of the worse complications like bleeding, infection, meatal stenosis, pitting, scarring, buried penis, amputation, or even death would happen -- why would you want to deprive your son of ANY of his whole penis?
You might not want to dwell too long on how much more sensitive the intact penis is -- but just keep in mind, there's no such thing as a harmless circ.#8; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:30:00 GMT
- I really played up my mama bear instinct and told him I wouldn't be able to bear (oops, no pun intended) cutting off a piece of our new, tiny baby. What a crummy way to be welcomed in to the world. Facts didn't do it for my SO but being passionate about protecting our future child(ren) from harm and preserving the integrity of their tiny bodies did the trick in the end.
OH, and I bought him Penn & Teller's Bull***, season 3. It has an episode where they call bull**** on circ and is VERY informative.#9; Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:31:00 GMT